How do I do this on my own?
You don’t. Getting through a divorce is best achieved by getting help. Reach out to neighbors, friends and family if you need help with your children or if you need emotional support. Meet with a couple of attorneys to pick one you feel will best represent you. Call a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) to perform a financial analysis used by attorneys to reach an equitable financial settlement. Seek the help of a counselor if you or your child(ren) need therapy to get through this trying time.
Do I need to go back to work?
While going back to work can be daunting to some and rewarding to others, the best advice we can give you is to assess your goals, and what is truly meaningful to you. With over 25 years’ experience helping people optimize and manage their resources, we will evaluate your goals and your ability to achieve them.
Can I keep the family home?
Sometimes keeping the home is not always the best option. A full assessment of your cash flow is necessary to determine if you can afford to keep the home. We want to give you the confidence you need to know you are making the right decision.
- Do gather all financial statements and information ASAP.
- Do have a plan.
- Do seek financial assistance from a CDFA who will help you find an attorney.
- Do try to communicate with your soon to be ex.
- Do take some time out for yourself.
- Do be honest.
- Do put the children first.
- Do get some sleep – this might be the hardest thing to do!
- Don’t argue or criticize your spouse in front of the children.
- Don’t use your children as messengers.
- Don’t withhold visitation from your spouse.
- Don’t go it alone.
- Don’t burden your children with your troubles.
- Don’t make rash decisions.
Comprehensive Financial Help – Advice and Implementation
List of Services
- Preparing a Division of Asset Statement
- Generating a Financial Statement
- Determining pension worth and deferred compensation
- Projecting future living expenses
- Analyzing current and future cash flow
- Evaluating tax implications for asset division
- Evaluating alimony
- Dividing retirement plans
- Recommending realistic assumptions for projected inflation and rates of return
- Determining household costs and monthly budgets
- Assisting with debt control and credit issues
- Analyzing implications of custody and child spousal support
- Setting up budget and financial management strategies using our proprietary on-line program
Andrea and Bill were married for 14 years. Andrea gave up a lucrative job to stay home with their only son Jacob. The marriage was strained. Andrea wanted a divorce, but she was concerned she could not maintain the current lifestyle she and Jacob grew accustomed to - a major issue for most women considering a divorce. It took courage for her to reach out for help.
We worked with Andrea to generate a financial analysis and a proposed division of assets. We projected her future cash flow allowing her to feel more secure. We offered her tools to help her remain in control of her situation. As Andrea became more refreshed and confident, we worked together to develop a road map for her new journey; life after divorce.
Today, Andrea has full custody of Jacob and received a fair settlement in her divorce. Her new home is peaceful and loving. Jacob has friends over frequently and is doing very well in school. Andrea is back at work. She took less pay to re-enter the workforce. Within 6 months, she received a raise and shortly after that; a generous bonus!
A Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) is a financial professional skilled at analyzing data and providing expertise on the financial issues of divorce. The role of the CDFA is to assist the client and his or her attorney to understand how the decisions he or she makes today will impact the client’s financial future. A CDFA can take on many roles in the divorce process.
Cash flow represents a dynamic movement of funds in and out of a person’s or family’s household account(s). It is determined by looking at cash received (income) and cash spent (expenses), and it is used to determine payments that are expected to happen in the future.
Financial statements show a person’s or household’s assets, liabilities, and net worth at a given point in time.
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